Three Ways to Become a Better Listener: Habit #5

Three Ways to Become a Better Listener: Habit #5

Habit #5 says highly effective people seek first to understand, then to be understood.

Basically, they listen, and they listen carefully.

Now that the soundtrack to most of our lives is a sporadic jingle, followed by the unmistakable sound of vibrations (and not the good kind The Beach Boys were pickin’ up in 1966), listening is a harder habit to pick up… Pick up – get it?

1. Be a Selective Listener

Here’s what I mean:

Be Selective

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be picky about who/what you seek to understand. As a species, we’ve never been more connected. Consequently, we’re expected to listen far more regularly. That's a pretty tall order, especially when one considers all the phenomenal television being produced these days. 

2. Don’t Finish Each Other’s Sentences

It doesn’t mean you’re in love—it means you aren’t listening. Stop jumping to conclusions.

I Will Break You

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Seek

My mother-in-law had four boys, and none of them could ever seem to find the ketchup (or their shoes). After a cursory glance or two, they would invariably cry out for her, and she would advise: “Look with your hands!”

Don’t discount the language Covey uses to describe habit #5. To seek is an active verb. Like running, lifting, and jumping, seeking demands muscle. It requires us to look with our hands. If you were seeking to understand Organic Chemistry, for example, you’d probably spend hours listening to lectures, watching Khan Academy videos, doing practice problems, taking exams, turning in exam corrections... and weeping uncontrollably when it's all over.giphy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So it is with seeking to understand the most complex organic creature on the face of this planet.

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